Dealing with loss - what helped me get over previous losses

yoga

routine

working

getting up early

going to bed early

support from friends

family

planning sundays

cycling

running

meditation

EPP

fun

comedy

planning holidays

going on holidays

photography

blogging

art

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friends' families

P's family

my family

self help books

measuring how I feel every day

drawing a graph of daily well-being

eating well

meal planning

roomba

dishwasher

ocado

friends on the phone

doing list by computer

visualisation

volunteering

doing things for others

using timer to increase time spent at doing a certain activity - meditation, writing

enjoy the moment

celebrate success

celebrate any old thing

free treats - hand massage, paint nails, sit in sun for 5 mins

make bread

invite people for meals, coffees

aromatherapy

acupressure

celebrate the person's life in J's case, ceremonial things - funeral and scattering of ashes

helping to support the other people affected

defer things when not well and deal with symptoms as and when

Five Amazing Things

1) Learning something new every day, especially when it is useful!
2) The power of light, even in the autumn and winter
3) Caring about and for others, making each second as rewarding as you can
4) Getting in my 'confidence circle', a magic trick I use to get as confident as I can for stressful situations (think about 3 times you have been most confident and take yourself there as vividly as you can)
5) Self-hypnosis scripts given by others that help you relax

Five Amazing Things

1) The sight of the glorious autumnal trees in the sunshine
2) A crisp morning with the fog blowing away
3) The kindness of loved ones as they look after us when we are not well
4) an unexpected gift of heathers for the garden, which will look wonderful all winter
5) A regular run in the morning, at one's own pace, running as fast as you can, getting all that adrenalin and endorphins going.

Five Amazing Things

1) Getting shopping delivered
2) The smell of frankinscence aromatherapy oil to help you study
3) Coaching
4) Acronyms
5) little moleskin books for writing down all my notes